October 12, 2020

Why Motivation is Irrelevant in Goal-Setting

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Why Motivation is Irrelevant in Goal-Setting


What’s up y’all, we’re back with another episode of The Boujee Boss up Podcast! Today we are going to be talking about motivation, and not in the way you might think. Oftentimes, when people talk about achieving certain goals, they mention motivation or their “why”. Let me tell you why “your why” doesn’t matter: there is no longevity in motivation.


It’s a great excitement booster in the beginning when everything is new and exhilarating, but as we all know those fuzzy feelings wear off.


Why do you think there are so many people who start healthier lifestyles in January just to abandon their gym memberships by the end of February?


Why do you think you never want to leave your new boyfriend alone in the first month, but can barely stand the sight of him by the end of month 6?


Why do you think you have that 6-month-old $300 LLC certificate sitting in your house for a business you’re still haven’t launched?             


You were motivated for each and every one of these things in the beginning, but have been consistent in none of them.


Was it because your “why” wasn’t good enough?


Yes and no.


No in the generic sense. Taking charge of your health to feel better about yourself and live a longer life, cultivating a long-lasting relationship that helps you grow, using your passions as your ticket out of the struggle into a life of abundance… all that’s good enough. It’s more than good, it’s life-changing.


But is it good enough in regards to helping you reach those milestones? Not so much.


I think we need to start having an honest conversation about how much of a drag it can be to accomplish your goals.


I know many of you, myself included, have studied extremely successful people, and wondered how they did it. And a lot of times you’ll see them use the factors I listed previously as the reason behind getting themselves to the finish line. But a lot of times that’s just not the case.


Those factors may have been the reason behind them starting, but starting is the easy part. 


What happens when you don’t feel like getting up to go to the gym? That screensaver of your dream body isn’t always going to push you to throw your workout gear on.


What happens when the honeymoon phase wears off and you get into your first fight with your partner? Those #relationshipgoals quotes aren’t going to calm you down.


What happens when you’ve had a long day at your 9-5 and want to be a couch potato for the rest of the night instead of responding to emails for your business? Those podcast episodes or daydreams about your dream lifestyle won’t always prompt you to open the right tab on your laptop.


So yes, motivation is key in starting, but not in finishing.


You need something more to push you to keep going. You need discipline.


Ahh, I can hear the collective groans everywhere!


But it’s so true. Discipline will be the guiding force behind your success.


I mean let’s think about this!


You don’t need motivation to be disciplined, but you need discipline to be motivated.


How many times have you dragged yourself to the gym for a 30-minute workout, then felt so great after getting into your groove that you end up working out for an hour?


How many times have you forced yourself to talk to your boyfriend first after a fight and then that turns into an entire conversation about other unresolved issues?


How many times have you forced yourself to respond to at least three emails that turned into you clearing out your entire inbox?


So, not only is discipline the guiding force behind your overarching success, it’s the guiding force behind motivation.


Moral of the story? Don’t get motivated, get disciplined.

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